let's rewind
I'd tell you I I know how frustrating it is to be told to "prioritize yourself" or "set boundaries" by people who’ve never walked a day in your iron-clad shoes. I get it because I have lived it. That’s why I’m obsessed with helping women drop the people-pleasing, over-functioning ways that are breaking them.
I share my story with unflinching honesty so other women know they aren’t alone and so they feel empowered to choose themselves in the world that makes it hard to.
My professional bio might tell you that I’m a digital creator with over 2 million followers, a soon-to-be published author and a mental health advocate whose work has been featured by media outlets around the world.
women deserve to feel like whole human beings & it's my mission to help
I'm Libby
Hi friend!
(Fan of crispy fried chicken,
reruns of The Office and slightly feral kitchen dance parties)
Truth-telling creator, advocate and author. I’ve got 99 problems. Being honest about them isn’t one.
I beliEve
By the time I clocked two years as a mom, bathroom floor breakdowns and self-loathing were as much of my routine as making breakfast for the kids. I was overstimulated, overwhelmed and tired of feeling like I was never enough.
Listen. I had sky-high intentions of being the kind of mom who was regulated, present, patient and fun. Breaking the cycle was my #1 priority. But when reality hit, I was too burnt out to execute my well-laid plans.
Being a “good mom” while also feeling like a sane, functioning human turned out to be so much harder than I expected.
I felt so alone — in part, because nobody talked about it.
Motherhood
Broke Me
(almost)
The truth is
I am a person, too.
I have needs, hopes, fears, feelings and ever-changing identities — just like the rest of the people on Planet Earth. Being a mom or woman shouldn't erase that truth.
I'm a better mom when I see & treat myself as the whole-ass human being that I am.
Motherhood really is as hard as it feels.
My corner of the internet became a safe place for moms to stop pretending everything was okay, to admit they weren't perfect and to lament without judgement. Acknowledging the truth is what helped me get back to feeling human again. As it turns out:
These weren’t just my struggles.
They were our struggles.
I found out I wasn't alone.
With awkward dance moves, serial vulnerability and unhinged rants, I opened up about my struggles. You name it. Loneliness, guilt, overstimulation, depression, my childhood trauma, self-loathing, the crushing mental load, society’s insane expectations I couldn’t keep up with.
In 2020, I joined Tiktok on a whim. I shouted about the realities of motherhood thinking no one would find me.
So, I did.
what I've learned:
no more squeezing into boxes.
no more self-silencing.
no more faking it 'till you make it.
I want women to set fire to the world’s rulebook about who they're supposed to be so they can finally feel whole, too.
who is winging it as I go and busting my butt to lead a team and run a business, all while attempting staying whole myself. (I should have bought stock in dry shampoo.)
try-hard entrepreneur
I'm A
to my (handsome British) husband, who makes me copious cups of tea, juggles more laundry than I do, and helps me find all the things I lose — including my marbles.
equal partner
I'm AN
who prefers real conversations over small talk, grace over grudges, and vulnerability over everything ‘cause genuine female friendships are a force of nature.
get-real friend
I'm A
breaking cycles and parenting with intention because raising good humans who don’t have to recover from childhood is infinitely more important than chasing perfection.
good enough mom
I'm a
trying (daily) to break up with the shame-fueled, maladaptive coping skills I picked up in childhood so I can be more present, intentional and actually feel joy again.
wholeness seeker
I'm A
Parts I've Been Embracing Lately
Our well-being IS CONTINGENT ON our ability to be our FULL SELves.
no more squeezing into boxes.
no more self-silencing.
no more faking it 'til you make it.
no more squeezing into boxes.
no more self-silencing.
no more faking it 'till you make it
Cause I'm telling you, change feels hard and messy and annoying...
until it feels like freedom.
You matter just as much as everyone else. If you want to start acting like it, you’ve got to be honest — about who you are, what you need and what the flip is standing in the way.
Ignore the “shoulds.” Drop-kick the pressure to do it all. Hurl our fear of disappointing people into a volcano. And honestly? Tell our inner critic to shut all the way up.
swallow the urge to douse the flames of shame with another to-do list or forced smile.
I say we
-libby
We need more women to stop thinking that they suck and to start saying no to the pressures and people who suck the life out of them.
life is really quite scrumptious
Being a mom makes taking care of yourself
feel impossible, right? You're not alone. Here's the problem. Back-burner living is unsustainable. Something's gotta give.
I created a mega list of simple self-care practices you can actually do, along with realistic tips to make time and space for your well-being. Pop your e-mail below and I'll send it your way.
(no village required)
Self-Care Guide
for Moms
The Actually Realistic & Free
you deserve it
Real change happens when we start telling the truth
There is power in women having honest conversations about hard things.
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